The Importance of Year-End Routines for Couples

Sometimes, it’s easy to let life just run away from us. We get so busy with daily responsibilities that before we know it, years have gone by and we aren’t anywhere near where we want to be.

As a couple, Joy and I have a year-end tradition of going on a retreat, just the two of us. During that time, we get to look back on the previous year and evaluate on the things we’ve done well and those we didn’t do so well. Then, we also get to plan for the coming year.

In this post, we hope to share the importance of having a yearly routine that you and your spouse can look forward to, which can also realign you to your family goals and visions.

Identifying areas where you and your spouse excelled in over the past year can help you find areas to appreciate each other in.
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5 Benefits of Having a Couples’ Year-End Review and Planning

Now, you might think that a year-end review and planning sounds too business-like. The truth is, it’s applicable not just for businesses but also for marriages and families. Here are some advantages to taking the time off to look back on the past year together with your spouse:

1. It helps you appreciate areas of strengths.

When you look back on this past year, which areas have you and your spouse excelled in? Identifying those can help you find areas to appreciate each other in. In addition, it also gives you a perspective of what aspects of life you or your spouse can perform well in, so you can assign those tasks to the person with the most strength in it.

For example, when you find that your spouse is stronger than you in terms of managing finances, you might decide to allocate a bigger portion of your money for your partner to invest.

2. It lets you identify areas to grow in.

Let’s be honest. Looking back on the past year isn’t onliy about victories. We might also find areas of contention or weakness.

For example, if you recall having had much conflict in terms of the way you disciplined your kids, it might inspire you to be more pro-active about it this coming year.

3. It aligns you to a common vision.

According to marriage guru John Gottman, one of the most important principles of marriage is that we pursue a shared dream. When we intentionally sit down and discuss the things that are important to us, we can work towards a common vision.

Sometimes, couples drift apart not because of a third party, but simply because they stopped talking about the things that they valued highly. Regularly finding time to dialogue about our individual life visions can help us find the common ground of a vision for our marriage and our family.

4. It gives you a chance to set goals—and reach them—together.

Then, once we have a picture of where we want to be in the near future, we can set goals together. Because we set them together, it also gives us the responsibility to do everything we can to reach those goals, and doing it as a team has so much more of a connecting potential than when you do it individually.

5. It sets a standard that you can evaluate one year later.

Finally, setting goals together for the start of a new year sets a standard against which you can evaluate yourselves one year after. Instead of blindly groping in the dark, not knowing where you’re going, you can see whether you and your spouse have moved any closer to the things that are important to you. Then, from there, you can make adjustments.

Taking the Step to a More Focused Married Life

As they say, every journey begins with a single step. Taking the time and initiative to be intentional in your married life is an important first step towards living a life of focus and purpose!

Stay tuned for our upcoming posts that we hope will help you align your marriage to a commitment to intentionality and impact!

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